Jess's world of imagination

Titles are very important when it comes down to a relationship. You label something to show some type of “ownership”. (Sort of like putting an invisible barrier around your relationship) You want people to identify your status of your relationship. If you’ve been with someone for 2yr are you going to address them as a friend or a girlfriend. We use titles for everything. Its apart of society and conforming. I feel that a lot of men who say that don’t like titles are the ones who’ve had a traumatic experience in their life where they’ve seen a sanctity of a title fail them.

A title is what you make of it. If you don’t like titles then why call people your friend and or best friend. You’re identifying them as more than just a stranger to you.

All in all if you’re going to put a title on a relationship make sure you’re willing to respect for what it is.  

It used to be frowned upon to be on reality tv, but in this day and age everyone is doing it. But at what cost? Celebrities are now letting cameras follow them for 24 hrs, everyday for a certain amount of months. What happened to being private? Is money that important that you need to exploit yourself and your family? Its bad enough we have grown women fighting over the stupidest things but what is worse is the fact they that some have children. The ridicule that some of these children might endure seems to not faze most of these “reality stars”.

It seems that people would rather exploit themselves for fame money and free marketing than keep their lives somewhat private. I just don’t how and why people would want to be on tv. For struggling artist (like Olivia) I somewhat understand. But in some ways It can also hurt your already tainted image (like Olivia).

I just feel that a lot of them are giving up something to gain something that’s negative. ALTHOUGH      I do enjoy watching these foolish people on tv. Reality shows are a guilty pleasure. Some may say it puts more stigmas on this race or that race… But I mean you can’t apply what one person does to everyone in that race, that’s ignorant. Not all Italians act like the jersey shore cast… not all black woman act like tamy….not all Latinas act like evelyn. Your intelligence and common sense should step in when trying to generalize. (Just saying)

All in all I do not feel that individuals should exploit themselves …..But on the other hand I do enjoy watching them….the lesser of 2 evils

To move on you need to shut certain doors from past relationships. It seems that people leave a door slightly open enough to slide back into that persons life.

Its good to have closure… For yourself. If you don’t it will begin to eat away at you. As well as begin to build up inside of you. It may not affect you today…or tomorrow..but it will maybe months from now or even years. All it takes is one flashback for a breakdown. A breakdown that comes out of no where with tears and anger.

There’s no harm in sending a simple text, calling ..or even establishing a relationship with an ex to tell them what you need to say to be better off.

You leave a door open you your letting someone know they always have an option as well as giving them some type of control in your life. You’re not really done if u can’t walk away w/o looking back.

Are the people in your life really there for you. We have different kinds of people in our lives that are there physically but not actively there. What I mean by that is when/if you fall you have the person who yells for you to get up, another one who is verbally giving you encouragement and another who is physically and actively picking you up and helping you walk again. You want to be actively there for people. Not always just verbally.. People have to be able to know that you will always have their back. It seems that now a days friends will stab you in the front and look you in your eyes while they’re doing it. I question some friendships I see a lot…. Especially the ones that are torn apart off of petty rumors … Or the ones who talk about each other all the time but yet find a way to call themselves best friends…. You allow who’s in your life if you know someone doesn’t have your best interest then remove yourself from the situation…

We all have friends who constantly go back to the same man that hurts them. They’ll cont to tell u over and over how evil and disrespectful this person is. They’ll tell how hurt they are every time they’re near them. But with all that being said THEY STILL GO BACK. ………

And let’s face it its border line annoying. When some of you ask for advice u really honestly and truly don’t want advice, you just want someone to reassure you that you’re making the right decision. OR you want them to agree with your relationship. Basically you’re looking for a “yes man”.

Those type of friends get defensive and begin to state lines like ” you don’t understand our situation” and “you don’t know him/her like I do”. But in the case why tell others about your relationship if you’re just going to get defensive about it? As a friend we’re here to give you our input as an outsider looking in. If you can’t respect the fact they took time out of their day to talk to you then maybe some need to reevaluate themselves.

Relationships are not as complicated as some really think they are. You have two ppl with different personalities, different views and different outlooks of life that enjoy being together, sharing love as well as being intimate with each other …. The hardest part is learning how to deal with the “differences”, that’s where communication steps in…. If You have the key elements communication and trust.. You should be fine… The solution to problems that may come is opening your mouth and talking about them.

I do not feel bad for the ppl who have complicated relationships. You either want to be with that person or you don’t. Going back and forth wishing, hoping and forcing someone to change their mind or fall in love with you is not going to happen. You’re really just digging yourself in a deeper hole an always expect someone to pull you out.

I for one do not entertain complicated ppl be that friend/fam in those situations. You can call me a bad friend, but I call that showing them you’re wasting my time by telling me things I already knew were going to happen. If you don’t have an open mind to the situation why should I? I can be there for anything and everything else..but refuse to cont to set up a safety net if you cont to jump out the window…………

U feed into ppls negativity you’re giving them a podium to stand on, u take that away they become irrelevant again

Why are people so interested in others lives? Do you not have your own problems in your life to attend to/ If more people worried about themselves than their surroundings we would have more model human beings.

Its borderline sad and pathetic to see people bash each other from the same city but continue to mess with the same gender you talk so ill about. There are 50 states …..if you don’t like the gender pool in your city then move. Complaining doesn’t solve problems and adds more to the existing one. The most humorous thing about all this is would the word hoe, slut etc even exist if people kept their mouths closed?? Men gossip as much as women even though they claim that they’re looking out for one another. It also seems that this negativity is highly illustrated within the black community. I mean don’t we have bigger things to worry about? like how many black fathers are non existent in their child’s life? It seems most are more concerned with finding out who the newest hoe is instead of finding out about their son/daughter.

A lot of us need to get the notion that all men and woman are the same …and more of the negativity that circulates each gender. Its not benefiting any of us in the end. You can throw dirt on someone and then proceed to try and clean them off, it doesn’t work that way. You can’t bash people from your city and then proceed to date them.

Who really wants to be labeled with a negative stigma …why would you want to accept being called something negative? So you want people to accept their flaws then what? Do you want them to change or better themselves?? Or do u want them to consistently be called something negative just so you’re able join in on the festivities.

Gossiping about people lives, status, sexual activity doesn’t make your life better. For most, you need to worry about your own life instead of trying to live through other people. Life is what you make of it …people walk around with a shattered mirror but can never accept the distorted image that’s looking back at them

You should never let someone alter your happiness ………if people in your life don’t uplift you then its time to let go. In high school we wanted 30000etc friends to be popular…. But as you get older it seems we drop the “0’s” of that number to a smaller one that is more mangle. The less people that are in your business the more things are kept within….or is it?

Trust is something you earn …. You can buy it….sell it…..it’s sometimes hard to come by because some really do not know the true definition. We can tattoo are bodies with meaningful words and quotes but do we really live buy them? Or are they just another way to try and conform and gain acceptance by others……….just because you tattoo loyalty across your back doesn’t mean that’s what you are. Some consistently use words that hold true and powerful meaning but never want to stand by them. Love, Respect, Loyalty, Trust words that are so easily typed, said, etc….. But it seems now-a-days they’re never shown, believe in, or truly understood.

If you are loyal to someone you will trust them with everything. You will love them no matter what. We have to be a little more careful with those who can be harmful for us. It’s your life and your emotions choose who you want to share them with. Don’t let people dictate things in your life.

You can only give life to meaningful words if you believe in them and understand them. Those who don’t educate themselves will never learn the right way, those who don’t understand will never know how to comprehend…… choose wisely

Are we tweeting for you or for me. Twitter is a highly opinionated site. It gives ppl sometimes a reality check …… But then you have the different kinds of groups. And u have people building different lives they don’t live, others agree with “higher ups” to maintain an image and Females with low self esteem that post millions of pictures of themselves just to call dudes thirsty which then shows that to many dudes lust for them and they want u to see it . Crazy I know ….

We move on to others that can’t really grasp the concept of debating. But try and push their views on people, come up with a sub par rebuttal and think they’ve made a statement. No one knows how to respect someone’s opinion but everyone knows how to give one.

It seems that everyone is joining the latest craze of becoming a rapper.

I do not know when this became such a craze….but you can see it everywhere. Your twitter page is filled with ppl tweeting you to listen to their music, your fb is filled with people asking you to listen to their music. But why………

Why are you doing it……..I mean there’s some that rap about lifestyles they don’t live, money they don’t have…women they’ve never touched. So are they really rapping for us? It seems that every rapper has the same old story..they grew up in the hood, they smoke they drink ..but what makes you different?

In a generation where most seem to conform in this “rapper lifestyle” when they make the transition to become one it seems they fall more in love with local attention/fame instead of trying to spread their music past their city, or even past this state.

I don’t think most truly enjoy and are passionate about their rapping.. I feel as tho their more passionate about the fame and money it brings. Kind of clouds those who are actually good at it and take it seriously. Its hard to pick a diamond amongst cubic zicrconium’s … Esp when there’s so many….

I won’t respect your grind if your grind is a fraudulent .. I won’t support a lifestyle and or dream that isn’t yours.. Sometimes I feel most of you need to ask yourselves why am I really doing this… And Is it worth it. You’re not getting any younger and you cant put 3yrs of experience as a rapper on a resume, so choose your careers wisely…………………

We all look for someone to share something with. Secrets, love etc…. Its sometimes hard to find that person amongst others who do not have your best interest at heart. Past relationships (bad) sometimes lead us on a destructive path in which are actions are later criticized amongst our peers. We cont to chase the people who shouldn’t be in our lives and push away those who truly belong. We never really know what a good relationship is…I mean we’ve all seen how it should be but never really experienced it. We cont to blame our bad choices on the guy/girls we pick specifically on “preferences” but in reality we choose them because the hurt is what we’re use to. You can’t grow a successful garden if u don’t really know how to. Sometimes u have to see what the cons are to see for the pro’s to appear. We are our worst enemy and do not like admitting the wrongs. If u want something positive u have to see what is negative that’s keeping u away from true happiness. They’re are plenty of fish in the sea……..but there’s always harmful ones. The only way u can determine this is to educate yourself on what’s bad and what’s right. If u want a good man/woman u need to define what is good to you.. Because most dont even know what they want, they enjoy a destructive path because that what they’re used to its normal. U can’t wish for things that u urself barely believe in…………….. You can only fix u, don’t settle for men who do not want you or deserve you… Your worth is more than you know. U just have to take time to believe in it…Someone wants to love u…But u have to yourself more to truly accept jewel someone is giving you

Negativity only gains value if you entertain it. If you cont. To add spotlight to something that doesn’t matter the more we can see that it effects u. This world is cruel, people will always try to bring u down to climb on your pedestal. But if someone can’t tear u down you remain superior.

Some will continue to gossip about you, but if u know the truth why do u own anyone an explanation? If something is not true people who KNOW you will understand. Those who don’t care for you will question their commitment to the friendship. Things that are heard are truly never seen…especially when it comes down to other peoples business. Is our self esteem that low as a society that we need to entertain ourselves with others peoples business to feel just a tad bit better than them? Or do we enjoy destroying the value of another person to benefit ourselves.

Self esteem shouldn’t be brought down because of another individual. You should never let another determine your happiness or define your character. Most don’t even know themselves but are concerned about others. Your value can only decrease if you allow it.

They say a car begins to lose value once its driven off the lot. I guess in a way we loose value after birth. But we can’t buy another life.. Don’t let others lower the price on your “vehicle” if you know you deserve more. You choose where to go and who will be your passengers.. U can always replace passengers but never the driver. …